This is the next entry in a series of posts written by my mother. An excerpt from the introduction:
She’s titled the series “Somewhere Over the Rainbow, a Bodhisattva Came to Me.” Each post is representative of a color of the rainbow, the significance of which she will reveal.
The complete introduction to this series of posts can be found here, and all of her previous entries are here.
Green is Life and
Renewal: Abundant in nature, green signifies growth, renewal, health,
environment and balance. On the flip side, green is jealousy or envy
(green-eyed monster) and inexperience.
Home is the center of a child’s life. But children know that
somewhere beyond the safety of home there is a world that is exciting and
colorful, yet sometimes dangerous. What will happen if the child must leave
home before he or she has grown up? Will the child be able to meet the
challenges? Will he or she ever be able to find the way back home?
Adults are all-powerful to a young child, but the child soon
learns that this power has limits, as when Auntie Em and Uncle Henry couldn’t
prevent Miss Gulch from taking Toto.
How does a child meet the challenges of becoming an adult?
Specifically, how do you act intelligently (the challenge faced by the
Scarecrow); how do you act courageously when you are very scared (the goal for
the Cowardly Lion); and how can you be a caring individual (the desire of the
“The Wizard of Oz” also contains some important
lessons in social-emotional development and ethics. Dorothy treats everyone
with respect and courageously meets whatever challenges come her way. It
teaches that groups of diverse beings can respect one another, work together, and
achieve a common goal. It tells us that often evil, in the form of powerful and
malevolent beings, has power over us only to the extent that we permit, due to
our own weakness, fear, and mistakes. Supposedly powerful people may turn out
to be masters of deception who are not formidable when unmasked (The Wizard).
For our family,
“there’s no place like home,” no matter what wonders and adventures
might await us. As you know from past posts, we have our disagreements; face the difficulties life throws at each of us, head on. We may have to talk about things that are painful to deal with but we come out of it, lessons learned, stronger, and closer than ever.
To illustrate the point Moxie made her post about our family,
I will share a story with you:
A family friend’s wife passed away, the result of a severe asthma
attack. He carried a tremendous amount of guilt because he went to have a few drinks before he went home from work. He told me he wouldn’t have gone home when he did if the day care center where his daughter was hadn’t called because his daughter hadn’t been picked up. He felt
if he had been home as usual, he would have been able to save his wife.
On the first Christmas Eve after his wife’s death, he came to our place and spent most of the evening and night with us. Our tradition on Christmas Eve is to have a talent show. Anyone in the house has to do at least one act. Moxie and Frank played a flute and trumpet duet to the love song from the movie Zorro.The title of the song is, “I Want to Spend My Lifetime Loving You”. Their performance brought us all to tears and they had to do an encore for the audience. Late that night our friend went home, laughing, smiling, and at peace. When he hugged me goodbye he said, “You all just don’t know what you did for me tonight.” I laughed and said, “Well, you know we are!”
It was a couple of weeks later when I went to check on him
that he told me something that literally sent chills up and down my spine and
had me crying. He told me that on Christmas Eve, he had left his daughter with his mother because he had planned on killing himself that night. But being with us, “surrounded by so much love and laughter” made him realize that “life is worth living and I can still have what you all have.” He also told me that his visit was his way of seeing us one last time and that he had actually visited all his close friends and we were his last stop. In our home, on Christmas Eve he found balance and a certain renewal in the blessed beauty of being alive and peace in
a heart that was full or sorrow and guilt.
When I told the Ladies (Moxie and her sisters) what he said, they were stunned silent and they too felt the same emotions I did when he told me. I believe they finally realized the impact love can have on others and how we affect others and we may never know how or when.
I’ve told my Ladies and now el Cinco, that you never know
how your actions will hurt or help someone. You never know who you will meet on this journey of life. Be good to all you meet, trust someone when they show themselves worthy of that trust, and accept people for who they are and not who you wish they were. Stand beside your family through all things. We have friends that are like family to us and the door is open for them anytime, any day.
I, too, warn people that we are batshit crazy; enter our homes at your own risk.
Chance and Apollo, if you should read this, we are here
awaiting you both with open arms to embrace our new family members. May you find your balance, peace, and renewal of strength and faith as you take the next step in your journey.
Glinda: Close your eyes and tap your heels together three times. And think to yourself, there’s no place like home.”
Dorothy: There’s no place like home.
There’s no place like home.