Perfect Moment Monday ~ Oh, Christmas Tree

There are no blanket right answers when it comes to continued communication
after the close of a surrogacy journey; it is all about what is right
for the individual journeys. Many surrogates and intended parents have an open door policy for an ongoing, lifelong friendship. Others agree that there will be little to no contact after delivery. No matter how much or how little, the level of communication that is
expected after a journey should be openly discussed before a journey ever takes place, and both parties should agree to match only with someone who is on the same page. Unfortunately, some surrogates who are promised ongoing contact to any degree never again see the children they helped bring into the world. They don’t expect to be completely and wholly intertwined in their lives, but seeing as how it is a family that we aim to help create, it would be nice if surrogates aren’t ever left to wonder how those families are doing. Thankfully, I don’t have to:

“CHEEEEEESE!!!”Β  ~ He’s getting so big!

Baby M, helping to decorate our Christmas Tree

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  1. Beautiful Mess on December 7, 2009 at 12:03 am

    Awwww how sweet! You just gave me the chills. I’m so glad you got to have such a great day with him!

  2. Cindy on December 7, 2009 at 5:41 am

    Awesome. Just awesome. πŸ™‚

  3. coffeegrl on December 7, 2009 at 6:08 am

    I love the sight of a little one decorating the Christmas tree. It must be beautiful to have that ongoing connection with Baby M and his family. Truly perfect!

  4. Half of a Duo, Raising a Duo on December 7, 2009 at 6:47 am

    Moxie it is wonderful.
    You know it cuts both ways, though. I’d love to see what my kids’ halfsibs look like right now. Haven’t seen a pic since the boys were like a year old. Haven’t seen their halfsibs since their 1st bday.
    Of course, we continue to roll on, with integrity…
    Love love love that both sides of your journey had the integrity!
    hugs the grey lady!

  5. K77 on December 7, 2009 at 6:54 am


  6. Megan on December 7, 2009 at 9:06 am

    This warmed my heart right up!

  7. MFA Mama on December 7, 2009 at 9:46 am

    Awwww πŸ™‚ Love the picture of you and Baby M!
    Pee Ess, you said to let you know when I started a blog, so um *coughs delicately and points to URL*

  8. a on December 7, 2009 at 10:11 am

    What a cutie – I imagine that, even with El Cinco, life would feel a tiny bit incomplete without Baby M in it. Glad you are able to spend time with him and his family.

  9. Lavender Luz on December 7, 2009 at 10:15 am

    How fabulous for all involved.
    You both look so happy!

  10. Trish on December 7, 2009 at 2:41 pm

    I can always remember how old he is because he was born exactly one week after Allison! He is getting so big, and it seems like he (and Allison) were born just the other day. I’m glad that you are able to have an open relationship with the family. I hope to have a good relationship after my journey, but I’m not 100% sure how often I will get to see my surrofamily, considering how far away they live!

  11. Sunny on December 7, 2009 at 3:09 pm

    WOW. I nearly have tears!

  12. Kansas on December 7, 2009 at 4:09 pm

    I may be on a hormone high, but that just filled me with Christmas cheer of the spiced egg nog variety.
    Thanks for sharing:)

  13. Sheri on December 7, 2009 at 5:26 pm

    I’m visiting from my sister’s blog, Weebles Wobblog’s Perfect Moment Mondays post.
    That is an awesome picture of the two of you and I love to see a kid with “Christmas” in his eyes.
    I admire your dedication to helping create families. You are a true angel. πŸ™‚

  14. Bon on December 7, 2009 at 7:39 pm

    So awesome Kim <3

  15. Sara on December 7, 2009 at 8:14 pm

    Oh Moxie, I’m in an emotional mood anyway, but that photo made tears come to my eyes. How beautiful you both are.

  16. Kristin on December 7, 2009 at 10:14 pm

    I’m so very glad you got to share this time with Baby M.

  17. Miss W on December 8, 2009 at 12:14 am

    Just beautiful!!

  18. luna on December 8, 2009 at 12:53 am

    this is so beautiful — the sentiment, the story, the pictures, all of it.

  19. Brandi on December 8, 2009 at 1:36 pm

    How fun! I’m glad you get to have contact with him, he is a dorable! πŸ™‚

  20. anymommy on December 8, 2009 at 10:17 pm

    Love. You two look awesome together. I love the relationship you’ve forged.

  21. jenn on December 20, 2009 at 2:23 pm

    This is just beautiful!