It is with a heavy heart that I write this post. Nancy Leisher of Infertile and Sarcastic/The New Life of Nancy, passed away on Monday. She was a blogger whom many of us loved; the news of her loss had finally circulated down to the infertility community yesterday via Facebook. She leaves behind a husband, two daughters, and a son. From the limited information available, the best guess so far is that she threw a blood clot from a prior surgery.
Nancy gave the best descriptions of herself–“shnarky as hell”– and that spunky sarcasm and self-effacing honesty is what we loved most about her. I remember her as being one who was always there to give a virtual hug and words of support, beginning with a punch like, “That sucks sweaty donkey balls….”
She was a no holds barred, roller derby, tattooed ninja badass, and she had heart of gold and loved her family fiercely.
She blogged only sporadically after 2010, but she dropped in every now and then update us, to get support, or to make us laugh.
I went to her blog last night to re-read her last post. It was written on February 11 of this year, coincidentally, my birthday. It was a short one:
“what is your favorite curse word?”
That’s Nancy. Somehow it seems almost fitting for those to be the last words that she left for us here in the blogosphere. Knowing Nancy, she wouldn’t have wanted us to be sad for her for too long. I can almost hear her saying something like, “Yeah, so I’m not here today. Don’t let that stop you from getting up and kicking ass tomorrow. Don’t cry for me; I’m going kick ass and take names wherever I go. You should, too.”
Nancy gave so much support to the infertility community, and the infertility community gave that right back to her. Let’s give Nancy and her family one last swell of support.
Donations will be given to Nancy’s family or to wherever they designate for donations to be sent. The specifics about her funeral have not yet been given, but it is currently planned for Friday, July 13th (I think Nancy is having a good laugh over that one).
I believe that Nancy’s family was from Arizona, but she’s lived in Colorado with her husband and children for years. If the funeral is going to be held in Colorado, we’re going to see if Lori of Write Mind, Open Heart can attend to represent the infertility community.
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Nancy, my favorite curse word is shitfire. Give ’em hell, MurdeRita derby girl. xoxo